Forgiveness is not reconciliation
Sister Chan Khong, the illustrious Vietnamese nun and colleague of Thich Nhat Hanh, has some practical guidelines for integrating apologies and reconciliation into the fabric of our relationships. Winnie Nazarko has a great dharma talk on Forgiveness . Here 's a summary of some of the literature on forgiveness. Here 's a framework for apologizing well. The NYT has an article on the value of forgiving and some tips to support the process of forgiving. Desmond Tutu has recently published "The book of Forgiving". It contains this helpful model of the process of forgiveness.